When I meet with parents or have tutorials, their biggest concerns are often related to your child's behavior: "I can not get more than five minutes seated", "Le dan pataletas", "Sticks to his brothers".
Usually we talk about disobedient children and in most cases the way to address the behavior of these children by parents is not the best. In this post I leave some guidelines that can help you and your children obey, above all, and more important to me two tools to try to practically improve their behavior.
– First, we must try always be positive. This means avoiding negative and destructive messages, as "you're bad", "Good for nothing", since this type of comments do not lead us to change the negative lead but to consolidate.
– The above point is directly related to the idea of highlight progress. A phrase that I like a lot: "we are getting better, keep it up". Be aware that praise is very important and we should encourage the child to do things.
– Both at home and in other areas of the child's life should be love and good relations. Everything that happens around him is marking the child and keep in mind the child due to not break the harmony and preserve affection.
– Very important and something I always tell my parents is that Parents should not desautorizarse each other. If this happens the authority is undefined, nor clear rules.
– The rules should communicate about the child, ensuring that she understands. We must not shout them from afar. When we give an order to the child must do always putting his height, looking into his eyes and with a friendly and reasonable tone.
– For the rules are clear, we can list the steps of the order and an accompanying explanation and reasoning.
– The standards are not repeated a thousand times. This we can do if we establish a consequence after every order. "Put on your pajamas alone or not you keep watching TV"
– And finally, something very important is not threaten in vain. If we put an unlikely or exaggerated consequence that will not meet, we will lose credibility.
Once we clear these guidelines, we can perform any of the following programs with them.
TABLE REWARD
It is one of the tools that I raise my parents. I like it because it is quite effective to modify unwanted behaviors.
You find these tables in multiple formats. They are sold in establishments of educational toys for children, usually felt or wood. From my point of view are very easy to make and also you can make with your son. In fact, I am in favor of the whole process as realicéis together, so that it is more involved and feel as their own not imposed.
We started!
Once you get a card and you draw nine columns, the seven days of the week, purposes column and rewards. You can put as many rows as you please work purposes. At first purposeful week it is enough. The important thing is not work but fulfill many purposes.
I am in favor of plastifiquéis the table, thus you can reuse as many times as you like.
Once we have prepared the table must choose the way you want to work that week. In this example I chose usually comer. Purposes should be clear and concise so that the child understands them. From my point of view, it is important that the purposes are associated with an image, we must consider that they are young children who can not read.
Once we have the purpose, We explain the child as the table works: compliance during the day this purpose will be rewarded with a happy face, failure to comply with a sad. If at the end of the week we have more happy than sad faces we have won the prize. Do not forget that the goal is to have happy face every day, in fact, especially at first we must be generous with rewards for the child is motivated.
The reward is something we choose together from the beginning, In this way the child will have clear what their prize at the end of the week and go to the. In this case, the reward is going to the movies. I am personally in favor of social rewards and avoid material. Take advantage of these rewards to do things with your children, go cycling, to the zoo, of who, etc.
So would our table.
It seems that we go to the movies! 😀
PUZZLE OF REWARDS
You probably will not find them anywhere with this name. I decided to call it to establish a nomenclature.
This program is generally used to increase the time that young children remain seated but can also be used to modify behavior, to reward the behavior we wish to establish or to avoid unwanted behaviors.
Since the objective of this post is basically offer guidelines to improve the child's behavior and get them to obey us, I will ask yourselves how to use this tool to change unwanted behaviors.
We started!
We catch a cardboard sheet size and divide it by half, as if we were to make a card. On the other hand, We ask the child to choose an image, This is the puzzle that will help us.
On one side write and illustrate the purposes and objectives we go to work. On the other side, put the image in black and white, divided into "pieces".
The child explain how the program works: if at the end of the day we have fulfilled our purposes, in this case, not scream and sleep alone in his bed, then we will stick a piece of the puzzle, it will be the same image but in color, divided into the same parts. When we complete the puzzle the prize or award will be given.
On the other hand, We can leave the child to decorate the card, type your name and color.
By last, note that it is important that both the rewards table as the puzzle are in a visible place where the child see, with this in mind and always knowing what their process.
I hope everything will be useful to you commented.
Thank you for taking the ball!
Kisses to all
“Due more to those who teach that those who rule”
San Agustin
1
0
20
20Tags: children behavior, tools, puzzle, rewards, positive reinforcement, table
Español
English
Français
Deutsch
中文(简体)
Português
