Surely as a teacher, You have or have had any aggressive student in class. This is often a delicate and difficult issue to deal, above all, when we speak of a classroom 30 students, only one teacher and one or more of them with aggressive behavior toward the teacher or their classmates.
In today's post I am going to leave some strategies that I think I can help address aggressive behavior in the classroom. I hope you serve and help you go telling me your experiences.
Before diving headlong to see strategies that you can use with the kids, I think it's important that we see three key, I consider basic, to address this type of behavior.
- Avoid physical punishment.
This first tip is more for parents than teachers, and that corporal punishment is intolerable in classrooms today.
For those parents who have a small with aggressive behavior both at home and at school, My first recommendation is that physical punishment evitéis. Usually this type of punishment usually have negative effects on the child, since this tends to imitate aggression and increases their anxiety.
- Identify the type of conduct.
Aggression can manifest itself in many ways. From simple kicking or screaming, physical assault to parents, peers or teacher.
On the one hand, it is important that we identify as accurately as possible the type of conduct. But also, it is essential that communication between parents and teachers is fluid and sincere, pooling the experiences at home and at school.
One way to identify the type of conduct, when does it occur and why, is going pointing episodes of aggression that has the child, what triggers, etc. I remember in the last cole where I worked had a mate who put this strategy in place and served to determine the origin of aggressive behavior, so that every time I saw that could trigger a moment of these sought help.
- Aims to change the behavior.
Once we have identified the reasons behind the behavior, how it develops, etc. We must raise the objectives we want to achieve to modify or weaken.
If for example we have seen that the child is usually aggressive in the schoolyard, and generally it is to get something by their peers, we have to put a teacher who is specifically outstanding game in which you are participating this child to regulate it. Thus, if a moment that can trigger aggressive behavior occurs, the teacher will teach the child to manage this situation through dialogue, reasoning, setting standards, etc.
On the other hand, parents and teachers must:
- Reducing contact our children and students have to aggressive models. We as adults must serve as a model and example. If our kids see that we solve certain situations with calmness and respect they will end their cue.
- We must teach children to respond in a calm and peaceful way to provocation.
- When our children or students to help their peers, carry out cooperative games, etc., we reward them and we are happy to show their attitude.
It is essential that the objectives are going to work at home are the same as in school. As we mentioned above, there is effective communication between different adults who are part of the life of the child is required to meet the objectives.
After seeing these general tips. Let's see some strategies that can be done if you have an aggressive student.
- Separating the aggressor of his victims.
Usually aggressive and dominant students often have a very active role in the classroom. Further, usually have fixed assault victims who habitually. We try not to sit together aggressor and victim, avoid leaving class at the same time, matching activities, etc.
- Establish rules from the beginning.
If students know from the beginning of the year the consequences of their actions, It will be much easier to control the classroom.
Explain to the students the negative consequences of certain actions and the consequences of certain positive actions. If we have not explained to our students that if they stick to a colleague, they will run out yard, this can cause punishment when students are angrier with the helplessness and "injustice" of punishment, and this will do nothing to increase their aggressiveness. But if instead it was determined from the beginning, Just we have to say: "You know what that means sticking to a friend ...".
The procedures and classroom rules are fundamental to control the classroom. Further, as teachers, it is essential to always comply, for our students to see that they are not just words.
- Use non-verbal cues.
According to several studies, aggressive students respond better to nonverbal signals to verbal. Many teachers who use signs to mark the silence, make students stop doing an activity, etc.
- Avoid competitiveness.
Competitiveness in the classroom can increase aggressive behavior. While the collaboration and teamwork It helps avoid.
- Never leave children unattended.
Although it seems obvious, should remember ... You can never leave students alone, and less if we are dealing with aggressive or disruptive pupils.
- Intervene early.
As we have said above, identify and intervene as soon as possible conduct it is essential.
If we do not intervene, conduct increasingly go from bad to worse and there will come a time when it will be uncontrollable.
- Be prepared for aggressive behavior.
There are many signs that they may indicate that aggressive behavior is about to occur. Each person is different, but children usually get red, start beeping, your breathing becomes faster, etc. If we have not been able to prevent this situation, we must be prepared to face it as calmly as possible.
- Use games.
Through games we can get achieve the desired behaviors.
We can make from relaxation exercises, that help children calm down and deal more calmly under stress. Up games induction tranquility, as the technique Turtle, which is basically the students imagine that turtles are hiding in its shell, folding and gathering arms to their bodies tilted his head and closing his eyes. So, They relax your muscles to cope with emotional stress.
If you are interested in more information on this technique, I encourage you to come into the web Andujar Guidance where you will find all the details.
I hope these guidelines will serve as guidance for coping with aggressive students. Note that are general guidelines that can apply to students of all ages, but of course depending on the age and characteristics of children we have to take other measures.
Thanks for being there.
"Who really knows what he's talking, sees no reason to raise your voice. "
Leonardo da Vinci
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I thank seemed to me great strategies for my student really thank you greetings muchooo the aplicare
Thank you for commenting Elda!
A big hug,
Cristina
Many thanks, I would like to know about other techniques .
I was of great value to know everything raised here, very useful and opens us up to other expectations, work with parents, and teachers. He has always worked on competitiveness, but now it will be done from the perspective of cooperation.
Hi Claudia,
Of course, totally agree with what you comment.
Thank you for giving us your opinion.
A hug,
Cristina
What if it is an impulsive student, It is natural to her aggressiveness!
Hi Johnny,
If an impulsive and aggressive student, You can try to put into practice the advice I give in article.
Share with us if you work! 🙂
A hug,
Cristina
EXCELLENT INFORMATION. THANK YOU VERY MUCH
Thank you Elena!
A hug,
Cristina
Thank you, by the contribution provided. I hope to help me with pregunta¿Que do when students insult each other,? , ie it is insulting a student and the other person does the same, at the same time involving a third party and whether on. Today we can not raise your voice to the student but this happens often, Although his parents talked to students, who pledged to talk to their children, but I do not see positive results What to do? THANKS IN ADVANCE.
Hello Maria Jose,
Thanks for commenting the post! This week I published an infographic with some keys to deal with students who insult or insult their teachers. You can see it here: http://vamoscreciendo.com/2016/11/13/claves-lidiar-alumnos-insultan/
I hope you find it useful.
A hug,
Cristina
Hello my name is Fanny'm teaching a third grade, I have an enrollment of 35 boys and girls and group currently there is a child with strong aggression problems from preschool am new at this cole, but nevertheless, with the strategies presented in class and with much love and patience I could control and better meet my child.
On the other hand when it is very tired and does not support any activity, I encourage you to rest and stop making it so they do not collapse.
He has only had so far this school year start an episode of uncontrollable rage (had 3 days without taking your medicine), very strong and violent, repeat the point of wanting to kill the girl who annoyed with one comment.
Do you consider friend Cristina, it is prudent to reduce the day when you do not have the medicine, to prevent recurrence of these episodes or you can attend your whole day?
SOS
Hi Fanny,
Thank you very much for sharing this time with us.
Have you talked to the doctor who treats your student? I think it is essential to have a direct communication to know exactly the case, and guidelines to follow are always the same. Why reason these episodes in which the student does not take the medication occur? It is important to know all this before discussing recommendations.
A hug,
Cristina
I thank all necessary assistance in this regard.
Atte. Fanny
Hello, I tell you that I am a third grade teacher, I have a very aggressive boy with his colleagues, and teachers and constatentmente insults his fellow. With girls she has a relationship of love and hate, quickly osfusca. He lives alone with his father and attends psychiatric therapy, This Medicated impulse control and attentional deficict. The truth, we have sought and used all possible strategies to help him and hold him, but change is momentary and then returns to the same.
the other fellow and you are taking fear and becomes obsessed with certain peers, mind if they speak, or the way of working of these. We spoke to his father and said that we do not have effective strategies to address the child.
Good morning Maite,
Do you know the social and family situation of the child? From my point of view, before medicate should study their environment, why these behaviors, etc.
From the cole what you can do is anticiparos these behaviors. I would list the moments that happen these episodes of loss of control, and see what they have in common. Sure there are always a pattern triggered by the same.
A Once you've detected this, then it is best to avoid these situations when conflict does not occur.
Te mando mando much encouragement.
A hug,
Cristina
Hi I have a pupil in the 2nd grade (8 years old) often presents episidios aggressiveness, the verbal assaults and makes it very offensively, physically agrde his companions children, especially one showing weakness before him, nullifies the abilities of their peers and does not tolerate frustration, It must be given to him by his side at all times, He is never able to recognize the achievements of others, Unfortunately he is a role model for other children and encourages activities and negative comments, I have implemented the strategies that you mention, but the episodes are sudden and unpredictable, rarely she is happy and working, but from time to time he starts to offend and to interrupt the class, his teammates are very upset that their day can not pass normally and are tired of “understand” his companion. His myamá do not know qu6e and psychologist has not brought us strategies to work with him. We know your social situation and want to help to make your stay in school and their peers is nice, as it should be, sos.
Good morning Grixi,
Thanks for your comment. What is the social and family situation of the child? Where do you think you can come these behaviors?
This is critical to understand them and tackle them.
Further, as I said Maite, from the cole what you can do is anticiparos these behaviors. I would list the moments that happen these episodes of loss of control, and see what they have in common. Sure there are always a pattern triggered by the same.
A Once you've detected this, in addition to continue implementing what I comment on post, it is best to avoid these situations so that when conflict does not occur.
A hug,
Cristina
Hello
I have a child 3 years is violent and vulgar with their peers, the child is presenting this conduct about two months over here. He was made visit to your home and talk to their parents to let them see what happened to the child in the group home.
some strategies were proposed but not changed the situation, So it is that mothers of other children say if the child is not removed, they will be forced to take their children to another group home.
To the kid, his parents overprotect and pamper being a child with Hydrocephalus. His mother is really has character to speak and control but it also insults and strikes sometimes.
I appreciate your comments for this situation
Hello Laura,
So you comment, the problem comes from home. While the attitude of parents with their child does not change, things in the community home each time will get worse.
It is essential that strategies and measures are exactly the same at home and at school. If the child sees at school measures are taken, but not at home, never change. He knows that his bad behavior has no consequences, therefore, will continue to act like.
From my point of view, You should talk to parents seriously about the situation at home, outisde agreement and take the same measures both.
A greeting,
Cristina
My thanks for so good article
Is very useful
Thank you for reading Elizabeth! 🙂
I have a student 8 years old, She lives with her aunt and uncle because his parents are in another country. His attitude at school is aggressive both with peers and with their teacher. Reacts with disobedience, aggression and violence to defend against any threat, Yet when calm is quite affectionate. At times he has placed phrases written tasks contrary to their actions, but their attitudes do not improve.
Hi carmen,
I do not think writing phrases repetitively go to help this student. Such tasks often frustrate more.
Why do not you try it every time you have an episode of aggression, have to write down how you felt, What made you react like, etc.? A) Yes, both he and you will understand better the origin of this attitude.
In any case, I think the main problem is that this child has their parents away and wants attention.
See how it works telling what I tell you.
A hug,
Cristina
I greet and while I tell you I 21 children of 3 years old , of which 3 They have special care needs, one of them is aggressive and cries when we're in meetings, the other does not have any case, despite having done everything tells me. I'm worried because others are afraid. In addition I see a child who does not speak like other and their parents do not give me full information and feel they are in denial of what really happens to your little. I need help please.
Hi Lilly,
First, thank you very much for reading the article and comment.
About the student who ignores and which is aggressive, Have you tried the tables rewards with them?
Generally, tables rewards at this age tend to work very well, much more for this type of behavior.
I pass the link to one of the articles that spoke of this resource: http://vamoscreciendo.com/2013/11/10/como-mejorar-el-comportamiento-de-tu-hijo/
For the child who does not speak, we would have to know the situation at home, no details is difficult to give guidelines to work with him.
A hug,
Cristina
Hi I'm Maria professor at the initial level and work with the kids five years. I have two girls who do not stop fighting feel and use all the strategies I gave up that do not need further guidance. ?What I can do?
Hello Maria,
these girls, Do not you stop fighting each other? Or also with peers?
Have you tried to give them a responsibility or task in class? This usually works well because it makes you focus on the task entrusted to them instead of fighting.
A hug,
Cristina
Hello my son 4 years is very agrasivo with friends hit them much not share and that's why I started the fight would know what to do with the child as punishment leaving it not play outside or sitting in a chair for a few minutes but was not served much you dialogue that must carry too well that no Pegie you to friends but nothing served grscias
Hello Daniela,
What situations paste your son? Only at school or with all your friends?
First, it is important to identify situations in which your child is aggressive, we must determine whether there is a common pattern and what.
Once we have identified this pattern is when we work on it. With 4 years sit you in a chair thinking does little, the first, When the aggression occurs, It is to separate your child, take you to another site and explain what has gone wrong.
In any case, We can not explain to the children what they should and should not do when they are upset and aggressive. Take advantage of a moment when you are calm to explain why they should treat their peers. You can work a table of rewards with the goals you want to achieve.
I hope these tips will be useful.
A hug,
Cristina
Hi my son is 8 years is aggressive with friends and sister does not like working at school or ASEE task is annoying and thrashes ASE tantrum not as Aser is very anxious not stay on one side constantly punishments moves do not cause afraid q can Aser
Hello Angy,
Have you tried using positive reinforcement rather than punishment?
I am much more in favor of positive reinforcement, and usually with children and works best.
A hug,
Cristina
Good afternoon, I'm not a teacher but my 4 years has aggressive behavior (shouts, tantrums when disturbed, they do not listen, challenges, spits) Of course this also presents it in class with their teacher: hits his companions and the teacher. Last year that began this conduct took him to the psychologist and among some of the strategies we put the time out…but now when disturbed the saying is autocastiga: I'm upset I will punish, we have avoided corporal punishment because it gets worse, We talked to him and not listen but makes us mockery, something that the psychologist was recommended to spend more quality time because it spends all day at school because at home we all work and no one can care. Please help me
Hi Betsy,
I totally agree with the strategies that gave you the psychologist, Did not you worked?
I think a good way to improve your child's behavior could be through positive reinforcement and rewards tables. I leave an article I wrote a while where you can find information about this: http://vamoscreciendo.com/2013/11/10/como-mejorar-el-comportamiento-de-tu-hijo/
See telling how you work and if you have any questions.
A hug,
Cristina
I have a student who beats his peers but their attitudes are normal not aggressive. He passes by the side of a colleague and hits it like it's normal not fight and not hit them for some reason does not specify tantrums tantrums or need help to help because his teammates begin to decline
Hello Consuelo,
I commented a bit the same as Gloria. Have you tried to take roles of responsibility to your student? Usually it works very well become your "helper", You can be in charge of the material, the silence, the behavior, thus receives the "attention" is suing.
Rewards tables also work very well to work this kind of behavior. I leave an article that I published a while ago. http://vamoscreciendo.com/2013/11/10/como-mejorar-el-comportamiento-de-tu-hijo/
A hug,
Cristina
Hi Cristina
I am a teacher in a fourth grade 21 Students in a rural school full-time where students eat breakfast, lunch and afternoon snack with me. Within my students I have three students who are constantly beating their peers, He does not leave them their useful work up the bank they throw their backpacks, and when I am explaining gritar.y begin to hit the bank so that the other students
not listen and so it is with the special teachers. We spoke to their parents for help are involved and to change the behavior of children but no positive result , this is getting worse .
Hello, Gloria,
Have you tried to take roles of responsibility to these students? Usually it works very well become your “helpers”, one can be in charge of the material, another the silence, another the behavior, thus receive that “Attention” they are demanding.
Rewards tables also work very well to work this kind of behavior. I leave an article that I published a while ago. http://vamoscreciendo.com/2013/11/10/como-mejorar-el-comportamiento-de-tu-hijo/
A hug,
Cristina
I would like more help a child 11 years is aggressive at school and at home with her sisters and relatives of similar age already gone to home and already been treated with psychologist
Good morning Gina,
What results did when he was in treatment?
It is difficult to help without more details.
A hug,
Cristina
Hello Dr.. Cristina
I wish to express my appreciation for their strategies, while asking of us if I had material to work more situations of non-aggression in the classroom and at home, because my child is aggressive wherever you are, psychologist and recommended me the tables and then work for a while that does not respect my son, and still have problems with assaulting his companions, the teacher asked me to work them recommendations in your group, I hope you can give me your suggestions.
Thank you for all your support
Hello Jose Luis,
Thank you for taking the time to read the post and comment.
Have you tried the puzzles? Maybe you can switch puzzles with tables rewards to be more effective.
I leave an article in which he spoke of both: http://vamoscreciendo.com/2013/11/10/como-mejorar-el-comportamiento-de-tu-hijo/
Does the psychologist did not give you more recommendations addition to tables?
Regards and best wishes,
Cristina
Hello I teach second grade with the same problem as Grixi
My students come from violent homes the busiest days agreciones including in the classroom are the days Monday no fear or respect any authority as well as their parents do not know the limit always have to negotiate with them to get them are not attacking if they are called take retaliatory attention to their peers
I need help and do not know who or how such aid solucitar
And if I'm failing as a teacher how to do to respond to this problem of violence in children so young
Hello, Martha,
As I was telling Grixi, is essential to understand and know in detail what the social and family situation of these children to understand the origin of these behaviors.
Further, as I said Maite, from the cole what you can do is anticiparos these behaviors. I would list the moments that happen these episodes of loss of control, and see what they have in common. Sure there are always a pattern triggered by the same.
Once you've detected this, in addition to continue implementing what I comment on post, it is best to avoid these situations so that when conflict does not occur.
I know it's complicated, above all, when we have several children trying to desmoronar our class. In these cases, also it works very well to a role of responsibility in class each, to feel involved and useful (often the problem of bad behavior they want to draw attention and feel “important”).
A hug,
Cristina
I find excellent strategies, thank you very much and blessings.
Thank you for commenting on the post Heidi!
A hug,
Cristina
Hello. I am tutored 2 children of 5 years old, and three of them are like a “tandem destructor”. I tried separating them ( they can not be together in the assembly, or any activity), but eventually they end up gathering. Pegan, destroy things… I tried token economy, talk to their families commenting to please no physical violence at home… It has not had me effect. I have also tested positive reinforcement… and although it is effective at first, the end not. Each separately, good, some better than others. Might you help me?
Hello Ana,
Have you tried to give them a role of responsibility in class?
Normally these children are so because they want to draw attention and prominence.
Usually it works very well give them a task in class that only they do, for example, be in charge of distributing the material, or responsible of silence, to collect… Try to see how you're doing this and I'll counting.
I send you a big hug and lots of encouragement.
Cris
Thank you very much it was very useful 🙂
Thanks to you for commenting Daniela!
A hug,
Cristina
Hello good afternoon! I am a teacher of children from 8 second grade years, There is a child who was expelled from his previous school for bad compartment. Have 2 weeks in the salon and it doesn't stop hitting, throw objects that are on hand to their companions. This has already caused rejection from their peers. Doesn't work and ignores instructions. You have been given responsibilities but it doesn't work. Thank you.
Hi Roxana!
Have you tried the reward tables?
In this long-ago article I left you some keys: http://vamoscreciendo.com/2013/11/10/como-mejorar-el-comportamiento-de-tu-hijo/
I hope you find it useful.
A hug,
Cristina
Very good days, first of all I thank God that he allowed me to find you and that he gave you intelligence and wisdom to help many teachers, parents, that we go through very difficult times and you help us with the knowledge you have, That is why I thank God and I am totally sure that God gave you that task to help us. Thank you
Thank you for commenting on the post Ana.
I am very happy that the blog helps you! 🙂
A hug,
Cristina
I'm a teacher, my students are two years old and I have children who bite, Why is it and what can I do? THANKS
Hello Ana,
That the children enter 1 and 3 years bite is quite common. It's his way of channeling frustration and “fend” in front of other children. These episodes will surely occur when something has happened that the child did not like, like another child has taken a toy or something similar.
It is essential that you observe when this occurs, it will surely always be for the same reason. When that happens, after calming the little one who has been bitten, take the child who bites to a place “far” of the conflict situation, explain why you shouldn't do that, and how could I have acted. Obviously the first time may not take effect, but you must be attentive and be constant, sure after a few “talks” the child will start to stop biting.
A hug,
Cristina
Hello, I have a student who is aggressive and he already attacked me and his classmates where I can go to the blog I am a little desperate I hope you can advise me
Hello Ale,
If you have tried what we mentioned in the post and despite everything the student remains the same, even the behavior repeats… I think it is an issue that the management of the center should discuss with parents.
A hug,
Cristina
Excellent material. Thank you for sending me more recommendations for aggressive children..